By Dr Charles Leyman Kachitsa
Most rivers flow without ever being recognised as the sources of that which all things seek in the world. Rivers have a character which is individual and has no similarity with any of its kind and or size. Rivers have also signatures which are unique most often for individual rivers this is influenced by the landscape in which they are flowing through, determining their course and direction. In some instances, though time and again some rivers especially when overwhelmed, depart from their natural course in the process causing devastation to the people that live on their edges.
Rivers have a distinctive sound that is produced or not produced by the water that flows through them. Some of the sounds and noise that you hear near rivers are from animals that live within, alongside and around their course. Very different are the noises and sound that hearing them those who know, can easily tell which river and the area that it passes through. Naturally rivers that pass through a rocky course make a lot of noise than those that flow through flat valleys with no rocks. Quiet rivers are hard to detect to those strange to the area they pass through who only realise their existence when near them.
In most areas a river would have to pass through an elevated course with a big drop that amplify the sound of the water as it hits its own course down below. The higher the drop the more the noise and where there are rocks on the drop the water flow sound is even more amplified. In such places some of the water is lost as splashes that go beyond the river boundaries quite often causing more growth of vegetation if its a fertile landscape around.
The quotes this week are an extraction from a book which suggests a divergent theory in the formation, nurturing and for remedies should there be challenges in intimate relationships including marriage. I am sure that the few selected quotations listed below from this book will enlighten you to one or two life lessons. Read and reflect:
DIVERGENT THEORY OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS by Dr Jesse Omoregie
“As humans, we have the perception of the need to experience love and to be loved. Forming an intimate love relationship can be rewarding and satisfying and can shape the ways we view the world around us. Despite the feelings of satisfaction derived from such relationship, intimate love relationships can become a source of affliction, pain, sorrow, and other adversities.”
“……. The process of falling in love can be emotionally interesting to the perceiver, and can be accompanied by the feeling of pleasure, elation, , delight, or any other feeling of happiness difficult for the perceiver to describe. However, from a psychological standpoint, falling in love can also be the reignition of childhood style attachment to parents or care giver from whom they derive the feeling of warmth, security, and care. This may become a mere pursuit of feeding and preserving the deep-rooted narcissistic nature of the self. In other word, falling in love can be for selfish reasons whether consciously or sub-consciously. ……….”
“…. This is the type of feeling that is usually present at the start of an intimate relationship, which is characterised by an influx of intense emotion and sexual allure for the other person. The person with the perception of such intense passion can become pre-occupied with the thought of the other person, thus, would seek proximity to this person. In general, when people feel passionate about a person, a place, an object, or an idea, they tend to talk more about them, explore them further, and would want to be close to the person, object, or be near the place of interest, as well as finding ways to connect with the ideas they are passionate about. Regarding passion about intimacy, the behaviours mentioned earlier, i.e., talking about what one is passionate about, exploring them further, wanting closeness, and seeking connections are often exacerbated in terms of intimate relationships.”
“Humans have always believed that intimate relationship is rewarding even when at the edge of adversities. This notion has been instrumental in the development of romantic writings and poetry of sentiments, emotions, and imagination such as a sonnet and other love poems. ………”
