Confronting ones history without necessarily self blame is an epitome of brevity. Nations that have developed have constantly looked behind in history with a view to learn, not for blame but to spring up from what would be considered dark periods or jubilant ones. Heritage and nurturing of it has all the potential to make nations stronger and not weak. The problem is when some elements within the nation take it upon themselves to self blame and not learn.
Aligned with the above is forgiveness. Time and again those who have dared to explain the concept of forgiveness either way of secular or religious tones have pointed to the fact that it does not mean forgetting especially where such things would have the potential to cause harm again. So although there may be forgiveness, one must not forget to learn from the experience and here we mean both sides; the perpetrators and those on the receiving end. In giving up and surrendering ones other chin when the one side has been hit without reason, it’s all pointing out that therein is an opportunity for both parties participating in the act for learning, exercising humility and also carrying on what one believes is justice.
It is important to acknowledge that justice will always have two advocates to it, both sides of an act claiming theirs is the true exercise of justice. In all this we have then to find a place for forgiveness in serving justice. A very tall order to many mortals. Yet forgiveness is the foundation of justice or is it the other way round justice is the pillar in forgiveness?
The quotes this week are from a book from the story of a lady who found herself having to stand out in what was then a men’s practice. Which subscribes to reminding us the things we so much take for granted until their absence is felt without our control. I am sure the selected quotations below from the book will enlighten you to one or two life lessons, read and enjoy:
LOMATHINDA ROSE CHIBAMBO SPEAKS by Timwa Lipenga
“A girl from Nyasaland had to grapple with Victorian ideas from some of the missionaries. They felt that school should serve to prepare a girl for her role as a Christian wife. Such missionaries therefore focused on the subjects that they felt suited girl’s role, such as cooking, embroidery and needlework. ———– Parents were also anxious about whether their daughters would get married, especially since education had disrupted what had been a predicted pattern before then: childhood, girlhood, courtship, marriage, motherhood. With the advent of education, the pattern was not as straightforward from girlhood to courtship. This is why female students such as Chibambo, who did not drop out, were regarded as strange during an era when many girls left school in order to get married.”
“…. Those who supported federation were also of the view that it would, in principle encourage racial cooperation, and would be far much better than apartheid in South Africa. This view of a racial partnership was actually in the Federal Constitution, but as journalist Elias Mtepuka scathingly put it, ‘ … lips which mouth ‘partnership’ are betrayed by hands which manipulate apartheid,’ a reference to the colour bar as it was practised in the three countries.”
“As has been the case with many tribes during the colonial period, there are aspects of Ngoni culture that disappeared along the way, whereas others have persisted. For instance, Al Mtenje and Boston Soko have pointed out that since the Ngoni tended to focus on political dominance, this was often gained at the expense of several cultural aspects, such as language. The influence of the missionaries also led to the curtailing of traditional practices such as the Incwala dance. This particular dance was practiced during the drought and involved slaughtering a black bull. If the bull urinated before being slaughtered, this was regarded as a sign that rain would fall in the village.”
“But from that time, civil servants were barred from doing politics. No civil servant was allowed to attend political meetings or to say anything on political views, because he’s working for the government and he cannot speak politics against the government which he’s working for.”