Those who have played a child game known as ‘Hide and Seek’ will agree that at times you look far when actually the person or object you are looking for is nearer. You might go far and beyond thereby passing by unknowingly, the object or person you are seeking.
There are several reasons that make people to go yonder looking for a solution when in actual fact it is near them. One of the reasons is over thinking which in extreme cases does make people over-analyse a situation instead of taking a simple approach.
Another reason is over familiarity, being so much familiar with the situation and or its surroundings make people confident that they can not miss anything within that territory. It makes one feel they cannot be beaten in the familiar turf when in fact they may be missing some details.
The above also happen when people are seeking change. Often times the change we seek may lie within us. It might be us who need to change but because of over familiarity, we most times seek change to come from outside us in others not ourselves.
This week we look at quotations from a book which when read will enhance your mind making you continuing to recognize and explore the differences between men and women. You will also discover new ways to improve all your relationships. I am sure that you will learn one or two things from these quotes which finalises our extractions from this book. Read and enjoy:
MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS by John Gray
“When the Martians (men) became depressed, everyone on the planet left the cities and went to their caves for a long time. They were stuck and couldn’t come out, until one day when a Martian happened to glimpse the beautiful Venusians (women) through his telescope. As he quickly shared his telescope, the sight of these beautiful beings inspired the Martians, and their depression miraculously lifted. Suddenly they felt needed. They came out of their caves and began building a fleet of spaceships to fly to Venus.”
“In the beginning of a relationship, a woman gives a man a brief look that says you could be the one to make me happy. In this subtle way she actually initiates their relationship. This look encourages him to come closer. It empowers him to overcome his fears of having a relationship. Unfortunately, once they are in a relationship and as the problems begin to emerge, she doesn’t know how important that message still is to him and neglects to to send it.”
“A woman’s ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs more love. It is crucial that her partner understand what she needs at these times, otherwise he may make unreasonable demands.”
“When a man loves a woman she begins to shine with love and fulfilment. Most men naively expect that shine to last forever. But to expect her loving nature to be constant is like expecting the weather never to change and the sun to shine all the time. Life is filled with rhythms – day and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and autumn, cloudy and clear. Likewise in a relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles. Men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.”
“When a man can listen to a woman’s feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval and encouragement that he needs.”