Inspirational Quotes for the WEEKEND

By Charles Leyman Kachitsa

Nature is wonderful to watch. For example watching a plant after a seed has been planted come out, is one of the exciting experiences that stretches ones imagination. In extreme cases as you imagine the seed turns into a plant, you can imagine the seed having a brain.

If plants had brains, we would have all known. I hear some scientists have just discovered that plants have feelings, I do not know how far true this is. I just remember that one of the rules you are given in an orchard is never to touch the plants especially new shootings as depending on your spirit they may wither.

It is in that spirit that for instance just looking up in the sky, you realise there must be an invincible power above there. Being in the sky you realise that there are greater things than any one person especially when you look down as the plane is descending and you can just make out buildings or people walking.

This week’s quotes are extracts from a book that we started looking at last week. The book would make you learn how to read moods, communicate difficult feelings and avoid the pain of arguments when read and understood properly, especially in building relationships between opposite sexes. I am sure you will learn one or two things from the book’s quotations below, read and enjoy:

MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS by John Gray

“The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them. When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She forms a home-improvement committee, and he becomes her primary focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists – waiting for any opportunity to help him or tell him what to do. She thinks she’s nurturing him, while he feels he’s being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance.”

“One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times, a man’s needs for feeling good are different from a woman’s. He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems. Not understanding and accepting these differences creates unnecessary friction in our relationships. ———— When women talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she is talking with him about her problems because she is holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed. He does not realise that she is talking to feel better. A man doesn’t know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.”

“Even today we still need translators. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words. For example, when a woman says ‘I feel like you never listen,’ she does not expect the word never to be taken literally. Using the word never is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information, ————- To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic licence and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalisations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive manner. For instance Women may say a thing like, ‘We never go out.’ Men respond like this, ‘That’s not true. We went out last week’ ……..”

“Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away, and then getting close again. ———- Most women are surprised to realize that even when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away. It is not a decision or choice. It just happens. It is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle. ———– Women misinterpret a man’s pulling away because generally a woman pulls away for different reasons. She pulls back when she doesn’t trust him to understand her feelings, when she has been hurt and is afraid of being hurt again, or when he has done something wrong and disappointed her. —- Certainly man may pull away for the same reasons, but he will also pull away even if she has done nothing wrong. He may love and trust her, and then suddenly he begins to pull away. Like a stretched rubber band, he will dustance himself and then come back all on his own.”